Two Years in the Kingdom- The Khmer Wedding

May 6, 2019

Hello All, and thanks for following me. Todays topic is The Khmer Wedding Ceremony

Cambodian men traditionally don’t find a Khmer wife through means that those from Western culture are familiar. Marriages are often arranged through a matchmaker of sorts. Customarily, this mediator would approach the mother of the female and if the mother expressed interest then the mediator would inquire details of the young woman. Details such as the time, day, month and year of birth is required. Then the mediator would turn this information over to a monk along with the same information of the male to see if the birth details are compatible. If there is compatibility, then the family of the male would send a formal proposal to the family of the female. There may be several visits required by the mediator along with gifts to the family to establish a good relationship. If all goes well and the young womans family accepts the marriage proposal then the families will determine the wedding date.

The wedding ceremony has many components and can last for days.:

There is a monks blessing ritual. This is carried out first for the bride and then for the groom. This is an ancient ritual that is no longer required throughout most of Cambodia but is still performed in parts of Takeo and Kampot Provinces where I live.

Honoring the Ancestors. The bride and the groom pay homage to their ancestors by lighting incense, bowing and offering tea. This is a call to the deceased ancestors to view the bond and bestow their good wishes and blessings to the living family.

Knot Tying Ceremony. This portion of the ceremony when guests will have an opportunity to bestow blessings on the couple.

The Grooms Processional. This is when the groom comes to the home of the bride bearing gifts. I’ve participated in this portion of the ritual. It involves a people literally carrying fruit on trays to the home of the bride. Usually not very far, just a short distance. After the procession has entered the home the trays are arranged. The bride and the groom exchange rings at this time.  The number of people involved with this portion of the ceremony can be extensive so most people present the fruit tray and leave. In the last wedding I attended, I was invited to remain.  We were seated in two rows facing each other. The parents of the bride walked down the center between the rows, thanking those for the gifts. Then the bride and the groom, wearing traditional Khmer dress, walked down together while musicians played on traditional instruments. I would have liked to get pictures but nobody else was taking them and so it felt awkward but it is a beautiful ceremony. This takes place first thing in the morning.

Later that day, the event culminates with an evening of food and music. The food is exceptional. There is dancing- traditional Khmer dancing of course. Since I’ve attended a number of these celebrations, these are pictures from various weddings. Some of these pictures are from the wedding for the daughter of the chief from my Health Center.

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